What Do I Do When My Boy Says He Wants To Be a Girl?

That is a question that you probably never thought you would hear. However, in our present-day society and culture it's being asked more and more. Many Christian parents don't know what to do in situations like this. I want to tell you that there is hope for you and your child. In the following thoughts I want to give you some insight into possible steps to take if this has happened in your home.

First, I think it necessary to establish a couple of facts. 1. God made your child, and He made him/her exactly how He wanted them to be! 2. God's Word has everything that we as Christian parents need to deal with anything that comes our way.

With that being said, what should you do as a parent? First, be sure you respond to your child in the right manner. Don't get angry with them and treat them with hateful actions and attitudes. This will solve nothing, most likely it will only make the matter worse. Secondly, try to figure out where this influence is coming from. It may be surprising to you when you discover who or what might have put these thoughts into your child's head. School, friends, television, family members, all of these are possible sources. It will be very helpful to figure out who/what sowed these seeds in his mind. Thirdly, be careful who you have your child talk to bout this issue. Don't just let anyone discuss such a serious matter with him, they may give him wrong information and cause him to be further drawn to this idea. Fourthly, don't just put your head in the sand and assume the problem will go away or fix itself, it most likely wont!

How to help. Begin by talking to your child about who made them and why He made them. This is foundational to having a correct understanding of sexuality/gender. This conversation will need to be done on an age appropriate level. For a three year old girl who wants to be a boy because she thinks superman is cool it will be very short and to the point. For a fourteen year old who has been influenced by a teacher or friend this will be much more involved. Use God's Word when dealing with them. Genesis 1-3 would be a good starting point. Having a clear understanding of his/her purpose will help your child get headed in the right direction. Continue on by helping your child understand the parameters that God has drawn for gender/sexuality for us as His children. Show them why these qualities are most often attacked by a society (Romans 1).

Finally, get a Christian counselor to help. If you are a part of a Bible Believing Church talk to your pastor. If you are in the area come and talk to us. We would love to help. Remember, there is hope. Don't be discouraged, and most certainly don't give up!